• San Diego, CA
  • United States

R/evolutionary R/elating Weekend Retreat 

Led by Taber Shadburne, M.A., Creator of "R/evolutionary R/elating,"certified Master Trainer in Radical Honesty, & Founder of Church of Soul


Join us for two and half days in San Diego, where we will learn and practice the art of R/evolutionary R/elating and Radical Intimacy. Learn how to heal and release your past, and to arrive, with others, in the present… sharing authenticity, honesty, transformational intimacy, and deep, soulful connection. Learn to ask for everything you want, and be a real gift to others. Learn to live a life of love, passion, and purpose.


Let’s face it, we all yearn to give and receive love. We want richer relationships, deeper friendships, more closeness and community in our lives. We may even notice, in some quiet moments… that we’re dogged by a nagging sense of separateness.

And yet, when we look closely, we find that we, ourselves, are sabotaging the connection we want — with our own defensive conditioning, our old patterns of fear, dependency, and blame. We find that we are hiding from each other, fighting with each other.

How are we to drop this rusty armor so that we may, at last, see each other clearly… hold each other closely?  I want to share with you a way I’ve learned to do just that.

We want to help you, as we have many others all over the world, to:

  • Heal close relationships, with full-body forgiveness

  • Let go of shame, fear, attachment to approval

  • Open-heartedly share yourself and help others to do the same

  • Be completely and compassionately honest

  • Go beyond blame and use conflict creatively

  • Ask for everything you want, offer your gifts, and expand your ability to give and receive

  • Create deeper love, connection, and intimacy

Specifically, this intensive workshop will focus on the following:

Beyond Hiding & Fighting

  • How and why we hide from each other, thus blocking the connection we crave

  • Why and how we get lost in our minds, thus losing touch with reality and each other

  • The main cause of all unproductive conflict… and how to solve it!

  •  How to use communication in a radical, new way, to support a new way of being together


The Power of Passion & Presence

  • The real source of suffering – internally, and in relationships

  • True meditation & how to make all of life, especially all the pitfalls potential of intimacy into a powerful meditation

  • How people usually (mis)use conversation to resist life, create more suffering, and stay asleep, unconscious

  • Recovering from our addiction to

    “junk food communication,” and the

    “Dialogs of Distraction”

  • The 3 N’s of Conscious Conversation

  • The 3 Languages of R/evolutionary R/elating, and when and how to use them.

  • Letting go of our painful attempts to control (ourselves & others)

  • Moving beyond all blame (of ourselves & others), beyond "good" and "evil"

  • Achieving actual acceptance. and full-body forgiveness (of ourselves & others).

  • Learning to truly Love (ourselves & others)

  • Learning the Art of Asking for what you want and offering freely… the healing and nourishing practice of giving & receiving

Taber will teach, coach, and facilitate transformational conversation.  You will do exercises & practice R/evolutionary R/elating with each other in real time. 


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Taber Shadburne, M.A., is a cutting-edge counselor and teacher of transformation who has helped thousands of folks transform their lives and their relationships for over 30 years.

He has led life-changing workshops in about 60 cities, in 20 countries, on five continents. He studied Zen for 10 years, living and practicing at the Dharma Rain Zen Center, and has worked deeply with various spiritual teachers. He has a B.A. in Music and Comparative Religion and an M.A. in Counseling Psychology.

Taber is the creator of the work known as R/evolutionary R/elating, which he teaches all over the world. He also works closely and teaches with Dr. Brad Blanton, having done so for 20 years, and is the only person ever to be certified by Brad as a Master Trainer of Radical Honesty.

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Taber co-authored a book, "The Heart of Healing: Inspired Ideas, Wisdom and Comfort from Today's Leading Voices," with notables such as Deepak Chopra, and he founded the Church of Soul, in Oakland, California.

He is also a passionate professional musician and recording artist. Read more about him here, or check out what others have to say here.  



Friday, May 3, 2019: 7 PM - 10 PM
Saturday, May 4 & Sunday, May 5, 2019: 10 AM - 6 PM  

By donation, gift economy. Because we really want to make this work accessible to all, we are offering this event as a gift to the community. And because we want to keep being able to do so, reaching more and more people, we welcome you to give your gifts of support, to the degree that you are able and inspired to give. If you want to attend this workshop, please give a $100 deposit to reserve your spot (or reach out to make other arrangements). On Sunday, we will invite you to give an additional gift, to support the work, and support us in supporting you. No one will be turned away due to lack of funds.

Friday Evening, Suggested Donation: $10 - $20
Weekend Workshop, Suggested Donation: $200 - $500

Friday evening is open to everyone even those who aren't attending the full weekend - come and bring your friends! 


TBD Location in San Diego


Reach out to Manal if you have any questions, you can email her here.